• Monique Jephcote

Success


LINK to centre/courses: https://www.dhamma.org/en/schedules/schrasmi

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What is your definition of success?

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I use to think success was something that you worked toward. That one day you would eventually ‘reach’ this feeling. Then I thought it was ‘happiness’ until I realised that expecting the feeling of ‘happiness’ to be a constant (even a sub-conscious expectation) is somewhat of a set up because we regularly bounce between high level and low level emotions as human beings, and this is really normal, it’s what makes us human. I think that a lot of us classically think that success is a feeling we might feel when other people have described us as ‘successful’, perhaps ‘recognition’ means success for some, and we look externally for this feeling.

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To me personally, success looks like: EQUANIMITY.

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This is a prominent concept in the teaching of Vipassana meditation. A practice that is really, really close to my heart. Equanimity is a state of mental or emotional balance and stability, especially under tension or stress. It is an aware, observant, curious state of mind.

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It is also, and for anyone who has ever tried to actively work toward it knows, is a constant, continual work in progress across the life, rather than an ‘end point’ (something I think most of us think success is). Because life is constantly changing! As are we. It is the journey of learning and understanding ourselves and our minds deeper through each and every experience. Each time it becomes un-balanced, we have so much to learn - what an amazing opportunity.

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It seems that we are programmed to think that unless we are happy, positive, joyful, all of the time, then we are doing something wrong. We face sadness, disappointment, anger, frustration with a discoloured lens thinking there is something wrong for feeling these lower emotions. Most of us don’t sit with low level emotions because even from a young age, we tend to judge ourselves pretty harshly when we feel these more uncomfortable feelings. They are harder to ‘sit with’ and observe without judgement. So, we distract, numb, try to momentarily change them. Most of the time they are uncomfortable because we don’t ever let ourselves feel them to see that they too, eventually pass, arise, pass, arise, pass, arise, just like any other emotion on the spectrum of human emotions.

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How does Equanimity come in? I’ll give the experiential learning of Vipassana in my own personal journey as an example.

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You meditate for 12 hours a day for 10 days at a Vipassana course. You sit. You don’t lay down. Have you ever meditated sitting? Even for 5 minutes? Most feel physical pain. You train your mind to observe the physical pain (or any physical sensations that arise within the body) with an equanimous mind. That is, observing any arising sensations with awareness, curiosity, letting yourself feel, observing non-judgementally, without having any attachment to any pleasant sensations, nor having any aversion to any other more unpleasant sensations. Fully understanding that the law of nature teaches us that every sensation, no matter how painful or pleasant, and subsequent emotion, is impermanent. They arise, simply to pass away again. Arise, pass, arise, pass. This is the law of nature. A balanced mind through all, both the seemingly excruciatingly painful, as well as the beautifully pleasant, is Equanimity.

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Our mind is the most powerful tool that we have access to!

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Have you heard of Vipassana? It is a meditation practice which provides 10 day courses all over the world. They are free courses, purely run from donations. The closest centre to the GC is Pomona, Sunshine Coast. The link is at the start of this blog and at the end. If you live elsewhere, type in Vipassana meditation courses + your suburb into google and the closest centre should come up.

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Did I mention the entire course is free? It changed my life, my mind, my world, my relationships and it continues to do so as I delve deeper and deeper, and I personally think every single person deserves that. Feel free to message me to discuss further.

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The Intuitive Dietitian xx

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LINK to centre/courses: https://www.dhamma.org/en/schedules/schrasmi

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